Quotes By Author: ken mcleod

“When you first suspect that your girlfriend or boyfriend does not love you, you feel nervous and anxious. When you find out that he or she really does not love you, you feel sick and nauseated. Dismantling beliefs about what we are and how we function is not threatening at the level of the body, but it is profoundly threatening to our feeling and conception of what we are and our relations with others. Nervousness arises when we begin to suspect or anticipate that things are not as we had thought. Nausea is a reaction to the realization that we have been emotionally attached to a fiction, the fiction of an autonomous volitional self.Later you will feel ighter and clearer and emotionally alive. What you once resisted you now accept, often with a tinge of sadness because a cherished illusion has been shattered. Intellectual understanding does not have the same effects. While you may have a feeling of confidence in your comprehension, the emotional vitality is not present.The intention of formal meditation practice is to develop sufficient attention to see into the operation of patterns and take them apart, but this is only half of the practice. The other half is to exercise attention in your daily life so that your actions arise from presence rather than from reactive patterns.”

“When you have a fight with your husband or wife, dispense with concerns about who wins and who loses, cut the web, return to presence, and do what needs to be done. When you are aggressively pushing a business deal, cut the web, forget about driving the hardest bargain, and return to presence, knowing the place this business transaction has in your life. When you are confused in your meditation practice, cut the web, forget about achieving enlightenment or any other personal ambition, return to presence, and open to what you are experiencing right now.”