All Quotes By Tag: Relationships

“When he walked out of my life after three years, he was the same person who had entered my life three years earlier. I’d formed an image out of my perception. I thought he was what I wanted him to be.”

“When my wife and I lost our son, we had similar but very different experiences. She felt she was caught in a blizzard and she doesn’t remember the six months after we lost him. For me, it was like everything that I had known burnt to the ground, this field or forest that was turned to ash, burning, smoldering. How do I make sense of a world where this can happen? – Sean Hanish”

“The best advice that I got during counseling: Don’t judge your spouse’s grief response. Give them the freedom to grieve their own way. – Rachel Crawford”

“Trust your partner’s way of coping to be the best they are able to do and be at every moment in time.”

“I don’t think we had a joint mission to keep our relationship together. It was like: “Every man for himself.” I was in so much pain, I wasn’t really looking out for your interests. I didn’t have the facility or resource to really do that, to be there for you. Thankfully everything held together. Our love for each other kept on a progression. It could have easily gone the other way.” – Jonathan Pascual”

“She was to be content to weave a steady life with him, all one fabric, but perhaps brocaded with the occasional flower of an adventure. But how could she know what she would feel next year? How could one ever know? How could one say Yes? for years and years? The little yes, gone on a breath! Why should one be pinned down by that butterfly word? Of course it had to flutter away and be gone, to be followed by other yes’s and no’s! Like the straying of butterflies.”

“There are different levels of trust, and I need to get back to the point where he trusts me so much he no longer has to say it aloud.”

“When people split up, it always ricocheted like a fucking bullet, ripping through everyone who happened to be close by.”

“Honestly, death took on a totally different meaning for me in the past years…..I don’t feel the fear or trepidation about death that I used to feel. I felt tired of living.”

“Isn’t that why we commit to another? It’s not for sex. If it were for sex, we wouldn’t marry one person. We’d just keep finding new partners. We commit for many reasons, I know, but the more I think about it, the more I think long-term relationships are for getting to know someone.”

“Maybe that’s how we know when a relationship is real. When someone else previously unconnected to us knows us in a way we never thought or believed possible.”

“The world is supposed to be full of possibilities, but they narrow down to pretty few in most personal experience. There’s lots of good fish in the sea . . . maybe . . . but the vast masses seem to be mackerel or herring, and if you’re not mackerel or herring yourself, you are likely to find very few good fish in the sea.”

“There are many different ways in which individuals express, experience, and adapt to grief. Understanding and accepting different ways of grieving lies at the heart of surviving your loss as a couple. Understanding is helpful but not absolutely necessary. Acceptance of your partner’s approach however is a necessity. If you have not reached acceptance, make it your first priority.”

“Just because we lost a life, doesn’t mean we have to lose ourselves. – Tamara Gabriel”

“We do not have control over many things in life and death but we do have control over the meaning we give it.”