“All these openings for closeness–all these humans with their disappointments and their desperate hearts, but it’s so much easier, so convenient, to blame emotional distance on a lack of time.”

“There was also closeness, for the end of a couple is like a death, and the notion of death, of temporariness, can remind us of the value of things.”

“Close enough is not close enough.”

“Analyzing data from 79 men and women who wore inconspicuous devices that recorded some of their conversations over the course of four days, researchers from Washington University and the University of Arizona found a correlation between feelings of well-being and the amount of time spent talking every day. Moreover, the more substantive your conversations, the happier you’re likely to be. In other words, heart-to-hearts trump small talk. (LA Times, “A lof of happy talk”, March 11, 2010, A21.)”

“Ivan tells Anna: “I used to imagine that being embraced by a woman . . . as something so wonderful that it would make me forget everthing . . . [But] happiness, it turns out, will be to share with you the burden I can’t share with anyone else.”

“By the external appearance of your knowledge, you have attained (high) ranks and reverence with the people! So seek with Allah higher ranks and closeness by virtue of your hidden good deeds. And know that these two ranks, one cancels out the other.”

“He felt now that he was not simply close to her, but that he did not know where he ended and she began.”

“Those whom we most love are often the most alien to us.”