“Kate lost a mother,” I said, “but I lost a nothing.”Kate doesn’t feel that way,” Jack assured me.But what about everybody else besides Kate? How can I ever explain to anyone what she was when she and I had no name? People need names for everything. I wasn’t a relative or a friend, I was just an object of her kindness.”He wiped my cheeks, saying Ssshh. I buried my face in his shoulder.True kindness is stabilizing,” I went on. “When you feel it and when you express it, it becomes the whole meaning of things. Like all there is to achieve. It’s life, demystified. A place out of self, a network of simple pleasures, not a waltz, but like whirls within a waltz.”You’re the one now,” Jack said definitively. “That’s why you met her. She had something she had to pass on.” (p. 95)”

“I have seem even those who have long since abjured God die in grace. . . . Atheists don’t use their drying to bargain for a better seat at the table; indeed they may not even believe supper is being served. They are not storing up ‘merit.’; They just smile because their heart is ripe. They are kind for no particular reason; they just love.”

“On a mental level, kindness and compassion give rise to lasting joy.”

“We can show love, respect for others, and honesty in whatever we do to help humanity.”

“But above all, above respect and esteem, there was a motive within her of good will which could not be overlooked. It was gratitude. — Gratitude, not merely for having once loved her, but for loving her still well enough, to forgive all the petulance and acrimony of her manner in rejecting him, and all the unjust accusations accompanying her rejection. He who, she had been persuaded, would avoid her as his greatest enemy, seemed, on this accidental meeting, most eager to preserve the acquaintance, and without any indelicate display of regard, or any peculiarity of manner, where their two selves only were concerned, was soliciting the good opinion of her friends, and bent on making her known to his sister.”

“Some things cannot be fixed; they can only be carried. Grief like yours, love like yours, can only be carried.Survival in grief, even eventually building a new life alongside grief, comes with the willingness to bear witness, both to yourself and to the others who find themselves inside this life they didn’t see coming. Together, we create real hope for ourselves,and for one another. We need each other to survive.I wish this for you: to find the people you belong with, the ones who will see your pain, companion you, hold you close,even as the heavy lifting of grief is yours alone. As hard as they may seem to find at times, your community is out there. Lookfor them. Collect them. Knit them into a vast flotilla of light that can hold you.”

“Leave a trail of light behind youEverywhere you go. Whose darkness you’ll illuminateYou may never know.”

“The strength of a nation rests on its future, and its future rests in the hands of its children. True strength is forged in gentleness, guided by wisdom, and steeped in peace. Growing the next generation with gentleness, wisdom, and peace begins by recognizing that we are citizens of the world, that every human matters, and that our children learn how to treat the world by how we treat them. To be a nation at peace, we must treat all humans peacefully and raise peaceful humans. The only path to peace is peace.”

“Abuse changes who we are, it changes who we become. It changes how we move in the world and so does kindness”

“Our personal ripple effect is the power of one generating hope and change in others for a better world. Like ripples radiating across the surface of a pond when a pebble is tossed in, kindness is powerful and has far-reaching, positive ramifications that bring about a tremendous sense of joy.”

“There is freedom to found in the prayers of unconditional love and kindness.”

“What McKenna possessed was far more beguiling than mere physical beauty. She possessed a kindness, a generosity of spirit. Offering him the most dangerous thing of all – hope.”

“The currency to buy happiness is not money. It is kindness and love.”

“If throughout your entire life you make no fortune; travel next to nowhere; obtain a meager education; invent nothing new; are a stranger to fame; lack talent, wit, and charm—if these things are true and yet in the heart of every human who crosses your path you plant a seed of happiness, or, at the very least, you coax a smile from the saddest faces, your life will indeed be the greatest success story ever.”