“Forgiving doesn’t make the person who hurt you feel better, it makes you feel better.”

“He who cannot endure the bad will not live to see the good.”

“Don’t ever live vicariously. This is your life. Live.”

“That’s one of the things we learn as we grow older — how to forgive. It comes easier at forty than it did at twenty.”

“Lightning. Once it has forked, hot-white, from sky to earth, there is no going back”

“But that’s life. That’s what you learn from; when things happen. Especially at your age. You just have to take it in and remember to think afterwards and not forget and never grow bitter.”

“The problem with falling in love is falling back out of it again, usually because you’ve fallen in love with a lie. That happens as often as not.”

“I don’t forgive him,” I said.”Hell, no, you don’t. And why should you? So he can feel better? Get on with his life? And what’s he done to help you get on with yours?”

“I would rather have 1 amazing best friend than 100 decent regular friends. It’s not about quantity, it’s about quality.”

“Ah, but I was so much older thenI’m younger than that now”

“They’ve drummed the miraculous out of you, but you don’t want it to be like that. You want the miraculous. You want everything to still be new.”

“Look not to the faults of others, nor to their omissions and commissions. But rather look to your own acts, to what you have done and left undone.”

“If a man has his eyes bound, you can encourage him as much as you like to stare through the bandage, but he’ll never see anything.”

“Because . . . most of us think that the point is something to do with work, or kids, or family, or whatever. But you don’t have any of that. There’s nothing between you and despair, and you don’t seem a very desperate person.’ ‘Too stupid.’ ‘You’re not stupid. So why don’t you ever put your head in the oven?’ ‘I don’t know. There’s always a new Nirvana album to look forward to, or something happening in NYPD Blue to make you want to watch the next episode.’ ‘Exactly.’ ‘That’s the point? NYPD Blue? Jesus.’ It was worse than he thought. ‘No, no. The point is you keep going. You want to. So all the things that make you want to are the point. I don’t know if you even realize it, but on the quiet you don’t think life’s too bad. You love things. Telly. Music. Food.”

“Sometimesyou meet people and know immediatelythat they were meant to be your friend.”