“If one does not make an ego out of gender, one would still know whether one is a man or a woman, gay, straight, bisexual, transgender—whatever else we may think of. But those identities need to fit very loosely and be worn very lightly. All sense of privilege or deprivation that has developed around one’s gender identity, all rigidity regarding proper roles and behaviors for the various genders, must be cut through.”

“What is faith, if not an acceptance that there are things out there that cannot be explained?You know what you know, because you’ve never lived a life without that truth. That you are different, that your gender did not compute with that label assigned at birth. It does not matter how large a percentage of the general population is perfectly fine with their identity. That does not change you, how you responded to the mechanisms that made you who you are.”

“I couldn’t earn my way into heaven any more than I could earn my way out of being gay.”

“I never dreamed that one day I would be married to a woman, and that my dad’s position at Focus would divide me from my family, rather than keep us focused on it, but that’s what happened.”

“When we look at stories of renaming in the Bible, we often find that a character is handed a new name they never asked for. While I’m sure Abraham treasured the new name and promise God gave him, and while Peter probably felt honored in the moment Jesus proclaimed him the bedrock of the church, not everybody comes by their new name so easily. Some people have to fight for it.”

“It might seem daunting to a congregation to have to learn about pronouns, or to designate a bathroom gender-neutral, or to have difficult conversations about what it means to affirm LGBTQ+ identities. But transgender people are not a burden for Christianity, or for the church. They come bearing gifts!”

“She noticed a large grease stain on the front of her coveralls as she stood up. A few half-hearted wipes told her it was a lost cause. That’s what she got for wearing her good coveralls for a teardown. What had possessed her to even do so? Brionie hadn’t noticed. It would take more than that to get her attention”

“We are survivors. We shall survive again and we shall be the strongest, most gentle people on this earth.”

“I hope,’ he would say, ‘I will not disappoint him too badly for becoming … the things I have become.”

“That is — your friend?” “Philtatos,” Achilles replied, sharply. Most beloved.”

“Honey, if spending your life with Lysi is what makes you happy, then I’m happy.”

“Her dads warned her that some people won’t understand their family and might say ignorant (their word) and hurtful things to her and it might not be their fault because of what they’ve been taught by other ignorant people with too much hate in their hearts, and, yes, it was very sad. Wen assumed they were talking about the same bad or stranger-danger people that hide in the city and want to take her away, but the more they talked to her about what Scott had said and why others might say things like that, too, the more it seemed like they were talking about everyday kind of people. Weren’t the three of them everyday kind of people? She pretended to understand for her dads’ sake, but she didn’t and still doesn’t. Why do she and her family need to be understood or explained to anyone else?”

“Try not to be self-conscious […] or so critical. Don’t mope around looking for someone else to make you happy, and remember that the vast majority of homosexuals are looking for a superman to love and find it very difficult to love anyone merely human, which we unfortunately happen to be.”

“His hand lay across my stomach as he slept soundly. I entwined my fingers with his and breathed through the warmth that seeped through my chest. Such a simple, sweet thing to do, yet holding hands in bed was incredibly intimate.”

“What God was giving the eunuchs, through Isaiah’s proclamation, was not just a place in society, and not just hope for a future. By giving the eunuchs the same kinds of gifts given to Abraham and Sarah–a name, legacy, family, acceptance, and blessing–God was consciously associating the two stories in the minds of the people. God was giving the eunuchs a story to connect to–a story that set a president, grounded in divine grace. That was the story I needed to hear. I needed to know that my problems were like the eunuch’s problems, which were like Abraham and Sarah’s problems, and that all of these complications were overcome by God’s great love.”