“I know that it’s easier to look at death than it is to look at pain, because while death is irrevocable, and the grief will lessen in time, pain is too often merely relentless and irreversible.”

“Of all the ways to lose a person, death is the kindest.”

“My idea of God is not a divine idea. It has to be shattered time after time. He shatters it Himself.”

“Saving YouThe darkness takes him over, the sickness pulls him in; his eyes—a blown out candle, I wish to go with him.Sometimes I see a flicker— a light that shone from them; I hold him to me tightly, before he’s gone again.”

“There is nothing to save, now all is lost,but a tiny core of stillness in the heartlike the eye of a violet.”

“The moment you start arguing with an ignorant fool, you have already lost.”

“For in grief nothing “stays put.” One keeps on emerging from a phase, but it always recurs. Round and round. Everything repeats. Am I going in circles, or dare I hope I am on a spiral?But if a spiral, am I going up or down it?How often — will it be for always? — how often will the vast emptiness astonish me like a complete novelty and make me say, “I never realized my loss till this moment”? The same leg is cut off time after time.”