“The time that leads to mastery is dependent on the intensity of our focus.”

“There was a lot about Kim and J.P. he didn’t get…. he was confused by their lack of romance. As a father, he was at times grateful for that missing intensity, but as a man who liked to surprise his wife with flowers, it baffled him. Maybe he was old-fashioned, but to him a couple meant a strong bond, with positive and negative charges constantly arcing between them. He’d never seen Kim and J.P. kiss, let alone argue.”

“the intensityin your eyesburns my penas i write.”

“There is no Space or TimeOnly intensity, And tame thingsHave no immensity”

“Nothing is so firmly believed as that which we least know.”

“My candle burns at both ends;It will not last the night;But ah, my foes, and oh, my friends—It gives a lovely light!”

“I make love with a focus and intensity that most people reserve for sleep.”

“I finally know the difference between pleasing and loving, obeying and respecting. It has taken me so many years to be okay with being different, and with being this alive, this intense. (xxvi)”