All Quotes By Tag: Community

“The idea that we can be exactly what the other desires is a powerful fantasy.”

“There was no singles problem until singles got so single-minded that they stopped wasting time with anyone ineligible. Before that, it was understood that one of society’s main tasks was matchmaking. People with lifelong friendships and ties to local nonprofessional organizations did not have to fear that isolation would accompany retirement, old age, or losing a spouse. Overburdened householders could count on the assistance not only of their own extended families, but of the American tradition of neighborliness.”

“We’ve come a long way from the time when the crowning achievement in a woman’s life was her youthful marriage. And many would agree that this represents progress for women. But when did the search for someone to marry become self-absorbed and pathetic? This absence of social sympathy for women’s ambitions to marry is all the more striking because the social world has cared so deeply about virtually every other aspect of these privileged young women’s inner and outer lives. (…) The achievement of a good marriage is the one area of life where the most privileged, accomplished, and high achieving young women in society face a loss of support and sympathy for their ambitions and where the social expectations are for disappointment and failure, not success.”

“Polyamorous people are wary of having others’ values inflicted upon themselves, and so tend to stay very far away from making such pronouncements, to the point that they will actively ignore predatory behavior that is affecting their own “community.”

“Beyond anything we know to name, there moves a force arising from the pure juxtaposition of things, a force that draws us into being, that allows us to dwell fully in our lives. All pure juxtaposition is a gathering.”

“(In reference to swingers) In the meantime, if you wish to declare yourself polyamorous, get used to the fact that the confusion is gong to remain as a pejorative. Sure, clear up the misunderstanding as much as you can, but don’t put too much effort into setting yourself up as a “good”, responsible, community-oriented polyamorist by contrasting yourself to the “bad” swingers – they may not be your siblings, but they’re definitely your cousins.”

“In the mainstream, with its illusion of unlimited relational possibilities, we can counter dissatisfaction in relationships by simply moving on in search of the “right people.” But community…demands we cultivate friendships with people we might not choose ordinarily. Founding friendship on commitment rather than “chemistry” often requires adjustment…At the end of the day, however, we have found that any loss of chemistry in relationships is more than made up for with gains in meaning.”

“We need to bridge our sense of loneliness and disconnection with a sense of community and continuity even if we must manufacture it from our time on the Web and our use of calling cards to connect long distance. We must “log on” somewhere, and if it is only in cyberspace, that is still far better than nowhere at all. (264)”

“Our lack of community is intensely painful. A TV talk show is not community. A couple of hours in a church pew each Sabbath is not community. A multinational corporation is neither a human nor a community, and in the sweatshops, defiled agribusiness fields, genetic mutation labs, ecological dead zones, the inhumanity is showing. Without genuine spiritual community, life becomes a struggle so lonely and grim that even Hillary Clinton has admitted “it takes a village”.”

“For few matters you need to be solo, for some matters you need soul mate and for many matters you need society,”

“During your struggle society is not a bunch of flowers, it is a bunch of cactus.”

“An invention is a responsibility of the individual, society cannot invent, it can only applaud the invention and inventor.”

“We are not meant to live in isolation. Not in nuclear families or bubbled existence. The richness of life is found in community, in cooperation, in becoming a part of a greater whole. Expand your bubble, drop your shield. Invite love in. Do not attempt to do it alone.”

“When you dream of what you want to see, whether in your life, home, community or nation, you need to keep watching those dreams until they come to fulfillment.”

“When greed is enthroned, be it in a community or nation, ungodliness is celebrated at the altar of human pleasure.”