“My mother was like a cat who could never catch the tail of happiness because she never stopped chasing it.”

“Sometimes life will not accommodate your fondest hopes. You must let go of these treasured dreams. They were never real. Just let the image of each illusive hope flow away from you like an imaginary leaf on a river of daydreams.”

“I wanted a settled life and a shocking one. Think of Van Gogh, cypress trees and church spires under a sky of writhing snakes. I was my father’s daughter. I wanted to be loved by someone like my tough judicious mother and I wanted to run screaming through the headlights with a bottle in my hand. That was the family curse. We tended to nurse flocks of undisciplined wishes that collided and canceled each other out. The curse implied that if we didn’t learn to train our desires in one direction or another we were likely to end up with nothing. Look at my father and mother today.I married in my early twenties. When that went to pieces I loved a woman. At both of those times and at other times, too, I believed I had focused my impulses and embarked on a long victory over my own confusion. Now, in my late thirties, I knew less than ever about what I wanted. In place of youth’s belief in change I had begun to feel a nervous embarrassment that ticked inside me like a clock. I’d never meant to get this far in such an unfastened condition. (p.142)”

“What if he’s right? We’ve seen great countries fall into ruin virtually overnight. What if we’re next in line? That thought fills me with a kind of epochal sadness.If this little back street is anything to go by, perhaps the unraveling has already begun. Everything has suddenly fallen quiet. All the construction has stopped. The laborers have disappeared. Where are the whores and the homosexuals and the dogs with fancy coats? I miss them. How could it all disappear so quickly?I mustn’t keep standing here, like some nostalgic old fool.Things will get better. They must.”

“O blindness of the great!They go their way like gods,Great over bent backs,Sure of hired fists,Trusting in the powerWhich has lasted so long.But long is not forever.O change from age to age!Thou hope of the people!”

“We never really know what we give to someone else. Sometimes a few simple words may change someone’s life in a single moment.”

“We leave situations that are constantly painful or we seriously change them. However, the Greyness is more deceptive than that. It prolongs its lifespan by throwing in occasional light. Those moments give us the illusion of hope; that we can eventually get what we want from the same scenario.”

“Life changes, so you must hope.”

“The arch of history may be long, but it bends away from reality.”

“The arch of history may be long, but it never bends away from reality.”

“Sometimes we close our eyes to things, hoping people will change.”

“Your dream is always valid until you lose moral to chase it.”

“There has to be uncomfortable element in the discourse of anything to change.”

“Our personal ripple effect is the power of one generating hope and change in others for a better world. Like ripples radiating across the surface of a pond when a pebble is tossed in, kindness is powerful and has far-reaching, positive ramifications that bring about a tremendous sense of joy.”

“Hope is important. It allows you to survive.But there’s a point where tough love is required if you want to change.Action is necessary. It allows you to live.”