“Reinvent new combinations of what you already own. Improvise. Become more creative. Not because you have to, but because you want to. Evolution is the secret for the next step.”

“The woman is the most perfect doll that i have dressed with delight and admiration.”

“A woman knows very well that, though a wit sends her his poems, praises her judgment, solicits her criticism, and drinks her tea, this by no means signifies that he respects her opinions, admires her understanding, or will refuse, though the rapier is denied him, to run through the body with his pen.”

“Create your own style… let it be unique for yourself and yet identifiable for others.”

“Men should think twice before making widowhood women’s only path to power.”

“The death of a beautiful woman is, unquestionably, the most poetical topic in the world.”

“Only foolish men beat their wives, wise men love them and care for them irrespective of their flaws and mistakes.”

“I mean, I get it, In life, we’re judged according to what we’ve done. And women are consistently assessed more harshly. A New York University study showed that women have to do much more than men to be perceived as equally productive in the workplace. So we keep chugging along. Me? I’m great. I got so much done today! We want to have spotless homes, healthy-yet-gourmet meals, executive-track promotions, well-behaved children, a robust spiritual life, spotless community service, hot sex, and on top of all that, some time to relax. But herein lies the conundrum, If we continue to pursue productivity for productivity’s sake, women will continue to position ourselves diametrically opposed to satisfaction. You may feel like the most productive person alive, but without a purpose, you’re just busy.”

“Growth has been a constant part of my life and the getting up and editing out has been the hardest and most important part.”

“This book is about having the courage to stand in the ever-crooked room of black womanhood and summon the magic to set it straight. Even if only for a moment, the act alone heals you just enough for the next tilt of the room.”

“For a long time, I was the girl who believed nothing good would ever come her way. So much so that I could will the negative to come before the good could even make it to my location.”

“Writing this book took almost as much growth as living the life necessary to put the words down on the page.”

“I am not here for the men of this world–not as a scapegoat or a baby-maker, and certainly not solely for their sexual satisfaction. My purpose is far greater than shallow bullshit.”

“Fortune-telling and love-potions are not of much account, but old women are worth listening to.”