“A strong man never feels intimidated or threatened by a strong woman. And vice versa. It is mutual respect that they silently bestow on each other!”

“The problem may be you’re to busy trying on everybody’s else hat that you’ve forgotten about your crown.”

“When one feels oneself smitten by love for a woman, one ought to say to oneself, “What are her surroundings? What has been her life? All one’s future happiness lies in the answer.”

“King Solomon’s life reminds meof wisdom, wealth, women, woes.”

“It is your father who has insisted on calling me a ‘witch’. That’s is simply a term that men give women who are not afraid of them, women who refuse to do as they are told”

“I let all that anger and worry go because they don’t belong to me any more than the future does. And I don’t wanna feel them anyhow, because the truth is, whatever happens when this war ends, here and now, far from Richmond County, I’m freer than I’ve ever been.”

“A truly happy woman drives some men and almost every other woman absolutely crazy”

“Love is supposed to lift you up, not hold you down. It is supposed to push you forward, not hold you back.”

“True confidence is not about what you take from someone to restore yourself, but what you give back to your critics because they need it more than you do.”

“We know that for mankind to move forward, changes must be made. However, if an old man is wise only by his gray hair, yet it is inevitable that this wisdom will also become impaired by age, then it can be deduced that we cannot expect the very old or very young to make progressive strides to better society, it must be up to the men and women still in the prime of their lives to re-learn and teach the changes needed to be made.”

“Clear nights are sometimes the coldest.”

“When we strike a balance between the challenge of an activity and our skill at performing it, when the rhythm of the work itself feels in sync with our pulse, when we know that what we’re doing matters, we can get totally absorbed in our task. That is happiness.The life coach Martha Beck asks new potential clients, “Is there anything you do regularly that makes you forget what time it is?” That forgetting — that pure absorption — is what the psychologist Mihaly Csikzentmihalyi calls “flow” or optimal experience. In an interview with Wired magazine, he described flow as “being completely involved in an activity for its own sake. The ego falls away. Time flies. Every action, movement and thought follows inevitably from the previous one, like playing jazz. Your whole being is involved, and you’re using your skills to the utmost.”In a typical day that teeters between anxiety and boredom, flow experiences are those flashes of intense living — bright against the dull. These optimal experiences can happen when we’re engaged in work paid and unpaid, in sports, in music, in art. The researchers Maria Allison and Margaret Duncan have studied the role of flow in women’s lives and looked at factors that contributed to what they call “antiflow.” Antiflow was associated with repetitive household tasks, repetitive tasks at work, unchallenging tasks, and work we see as meaningless. But there’s an element of chaos when it comes to flow. Even if we’re doing meaningful and challenging work, that sense of total absoprtion can elude us. We might get completely and beautifully lost in something today, and, try as we might to re-create the same conditions tomorrow, our task might jsut feel like, well, work. In A Life of One’s Own, Marion Milner described her effort to re-create teh conditions of her own recorded moments of happiness, saying, “Often when I felt certain that I had discovered the little mental act which produced the change I walked on air, exulting that I had found the key to my garden of delight and could slip through the door whenever I wished. But most often when I came again the place seemed different, the door overgrown with thorns and my key stuck in the lock. It was as if the first time I had said ‘abracadabra’ the door had opened, but the next time I must use a different word. (123-124).”

“She was like the sun, She knew her place in the world – She would shine again regardless of all the storms and changeable weather She wouldn’t adjust her purpose for things that pass.”

“Women particularly should concern themselves with peace because men by nature are more foolhardy and headstrong, and their overwhelming desire to avenge themselves prevents them from foreseeing the resulting dangers and terrors of war. But woman by nature is more gentle and circumspect. Therefore, if she has sufficient will and wisdom she can provide the best possible means to pacify man.”