“There’s something about first love…it’s untouchable to those who played no part in it. But it’s the measure of all that follows.”

“Delusions are hardly an escape from reality. It’s a way of understanding insane people living in a backwards world.”

“I hold a strict policy of automatic grudges against people everyone likes.”

“Whatever it is that makes closeness possible between people also puts them in the way of hard feelings if that closeness ends.”

“Did you know that wherever you find fool’s gold, real gold exists somewhere nearby? This also goes for relationships and friendships. Real gold is found in the heart. For every piece of fake gold that you discard, remember that true gold isn’t too far.”

“It’s the people we hardly know, and not our closest friends, who will improve our lives most dramatically”

“Ain’t No Drama Like Bedroom Drama”

“We need to bridge our sense of loneliness and disconnection with a sense of community and continuity even if we must manufacture it from our time on the Web and our use of calling cards to connect long distance. We must “log on” somewhere, and if it is only in cyberspace, that is still far better than nowhere at all. (264)”

“People will walk in and walk out of your life, but the one whose footstep made a long lasting impression is the one you should never allow to walk out.”

“Don’t let a thief into your house three times. The first time was enough. The second time was a chance. The third time means you’re stupid.”

“Of course it hurt that we could never love each other in a physical way. We would have been far more happy if we had. But that was like the tides, the change of seasons–something immutable, an immovable destiny we could never alter. No matter how cleverly we might shelter it, our delicate friendship wasn’t going to last forever. We were bound to reach a dead end. That was painfully clear.”

“Don’t hang out with people who are:UngratefulUnhelpfulUnrulyUnkindlyUnlovingUnambitiousUnmotivatedor make you feel…Uncomfortable”

“Every relationship that has hit a crossroads has asked, “What is it that you want from me?”

“Even seasonal situations can bring with them lessons that last a lifetime. If the love doesn’t last, it prepares you for the one that will.”

“Real relationships are the product of time spent, which is why so many of us have so few of them.”