All Quotes By Tag: Sex

“When my skin had gone back to its even tone I slept with another man and discovered, my hands lying awkwardly on the sheet at either side of me, that I had forgotten what to do with them. I’m responsible and an adult again, full time. What remains is that my sensation thermostat has been thrown out of whack; it’s been years and sometimes I wonder whether my body will ever again register above lukewarm.”

“i have a fatal attraction to your mismatched fragments & your meaningless tangents seem to mean the world to me.”

“Make love to her mind but don’t leave her mindfucked.”

“Christ, I loathe women. But I can’t get going on the other tack either. And you needn’t blush and look coy, I never fancied you. I know what you got up to with Fritzie Eitel! No—but I’d have had old Wilfred if he’d asked me. What did old Wilfred do for sex? No one ever knew. Perhaps he didn’t have any, and if so good on him.”

“Reva often spoke about ‘settling down.’ That sounded like death to me.’I’d rather be alone than anybody’s live-in prostitute,’ I said to Reva.”

“…Next thing I know you’ve run off to Paris and thrown yourself under the nearest Frenchman-”

“It’s your world, but I make my way in it. At fifteen, no, I couldn’t stand up to you. The age of illusions, when we know nothing, we hope for everything; we’re wandering in a mist … And the half of the world that’s never had any use for us, suddenly is besieging us. You need us, you adore us, you’re suffering for us. You want everything–except to know what we think. You look deep in our eyes–and put your hand up our dress. You call us, “Pretty thing.” That confuses us. The most beautiful woman, the highest ranked, lives half dazzled by constant attention, half stifled by obvious contempt. We think all we’re good for is pleasing you–till one day, long acquaintance with you dispels the last mist. In a clear light, we suddenly see you as you are–and generally we start preferring ourselves. At thirty, I could finally say no–or really say yes. That’s when you begin backing away from us. Now I’m full-grown. I pursue my happiness the same as any man.”

“I am not looking for a “perfect” man. Only one who matches me on an emotional, spiritual, sexual, and intellectual level.”

“It’s probably not easy for a woman to understand what it’s like to be a man. Imagine you’re starving, and someone puts a huge buffet in front of you. There’s delicious, mouth-watering food all around you, and it’s really really hard not to eat it all. That’s what it’s like to be a man around attractive women. The urge to want to hump everything that moves is part of a man’s natural programming. It’s a deep-seated hunger. To suppress that hunger takes civilization and a lot of willpower.”

“FOR A WOMAN WHO FEARS SHE IS TOO DAMAGED TO LOVE AGAINA Prayer adapted from the Heart and Soul of Sex by Gina Ogden, PhD.Holy Spirits of Fire befriend and warm me.Earth and Water wrap me in bounty.Spirits of Air guide me to walk the paths of my heart.Sun smile on me. Stones accept me. Stars remind me.Ocean storms burnish my terrors to translucent pearls.Creatures of hills and hollows, beings beneath the ground watch over me, comfort and nourish me.Snakes and rivers, ancient dragons, dance sinuously with me.Swirling spirit of volcano invest me with power.Eagle and sparrow give me wings and sight.Snails of Buddha, saints of God, Great Spirit, Yahweh, Magus, Shiva, Isis, Astarte of the flowing heart, Goddess of Grain, Angel of Sweetness, Higher Power, protect me, fearful, angry, and armored; as I am the giver, healer, striver, survivor and lover.Cherish me—waif and victim, elf and Amazon.See me a holy woman now. Touch me.Brush me with the breath of love.Ganesh, sacred elephant who cries human tears and oversees new ventures, help me begin again.”

“This is not a conventional “how-to” book. It contains no exercises, and it has few formulas saying “first do this, then do that.” This is intentional. As we’ll see later, eros doesn’t like to be told what to do. If you set a goal, your sexual mind will be happy to reject it. It’s kind of childish and brilliant that way. You also won’t find much about sexual biology or neurochemistry on these pages. Sex books these days tend to be full of advice for “boosting your dopamine”—or your oxytocin, or some other such nonsense. In all my 30 years as a sex therapist, I’ve yet to see a dopamine molecule walk into my office. We’ll stick with things you can see and feel yourself, without needing a laboratory. I’ll also spare you the body diagrams. You already know what a penis and vagina look like, right? And we won’t discuss how many neurons are concentrated in your clitoris. It’s an impressive number, but who really cares? There are a few great sex books already out there, and I’ll point them out to you as we go along. But reading most of the others is like gnawing on dry bones. As my friend and colleague Paul Joannides, the author of Guide to Getting it On (one of the aforementioned great ones), has accurately noted, “the trouble with most books on sex is they don’t get anyone hard or wet.” This book is not intended to get you hard or wet. But it’s meant not to get in your way either. The chapters are short, so you can read them even if you get a little distracted. Hey, I hope you get a little distracted. There are no lists to memorize, and there won’t be a test afterwards. We’re dealing with a part of the human mind that hasn’t gone to school yet, and never will. Any questions? OK, let’s get started . . .Adapted from LOVE WORTH MAKING by Stephen Snyder, M.D. Copyright © 2018 by the author and reprinted with permission of St. Martin’s Press, LLC.”

“A rewarding relationship occurs when there is a common spiritual goal, shared spiritual values and a mutual desire to build a relationship upon a spiritual foundation and for the purpose of connecting to the light of the creator.”

“I shall now explain my plan. You may then speak, but only to amend the detail. The broad outline is not subject to negotiation. Are you ready? Good … I propose to have sex with you. I believe it will be excellent sex. Your obedience on one particular issue of timing it will be required to make it unforgettable sex. I will explain that issue as we go. At the moment, I wish to hear your inevitable objection to the general sex part of this plan.”

“You know what she’s made of.””Yeah, good stock, good breeding, a hard head and a hunger to win.” She flashed him a smile as they approached the kitchen door. “I’ve been told that describes me. I’m half Irish, Brian, I was born stubborn.””No arguing with that. A person might make the world a calmer place for others by being passive, but you don’t get very far in it yourself, do you?””Look at that. We have a foundation of agreement. Now tell me you like spaghetti and meatballs.””It happens to be a favorite of mine.””That’s handy. Mine, too. And I heard a rumor that’s what’s for dinner.” She reached for the doorknob, then caught him off guard by brushing a light kiss over his lips. “And since we’ll be joining my parents, it would probably be best if you didn’t imagine me naked for the next couple of hours.”She sailed in ahead of him, leaving Brian helplessly and utterly aroused.”

“Making someone feel obligated, pressured or forced into doing something of a sexual nature that they don’t want to is sexual coercion. This includes persistent attempts at sexual contact when the person has already refused you. Nobody owes you sex, ever; and no means no, always.”